Have you heard this wise adage?
I have heard this too... just that I wasnt really careful about what I was wishing for.
I have been wishing for a holiday for a really long time, you know the kind where there is a lot of lazing around, reading, a generally a laid back time where I can do things that I want to, without the hassle of domestic household activities.
I guess when we wish for something, we need to be really careful and work on the details or else we would end up with something that we totally dislike but in all probability would match the specifications of our wish.
Take my case for example.
Last Sunday began like any other sunday - but sonny had a little accident at home, and has fractured his 5th metacarpal. Looked like a minor fracture, but that was not to be. We had to admit Sonny boy at the hosptial and doctors advised that a POP ( plaster of paris) would render his right hand (yeah the fracture was in the right hand) motionless for the next 5 - 6 weeks and the results may not be predictable. The other option is going for a surgery and fixing a Titanium plate on his 5th metacarpal, so that he can start writing in a weeks time. He being in the 12th grade does not tolerate 5 - 6 weeks of inactivity and after some deliberations hubby and I reluctantly took up the latter option, though Sonny boy tried his best to persuade us into agreeing for a POP, not that he was worried about the surgery, he is a brave boy, but the POP will give him an option to skip writing for the next 5 - 6 weeks.
The surgery was scheduled for tuesday and with Gods grace it went on well. So you see we are still at the hospital, and I am keying in this blogpost from the comfort of my attender bed. oh yes, made sure that Sonny boy is fed, medicated, taken care of and has slept.
I have time to simply laze around, yeah I do have time to read, no house hold chores, the canteen in the hospital serves good food and kind of relaxed now that the surgery went off well. So you get my point? about being careful of what you wish for. All my specifications are met, except the objective.
Anyways, I see positivity in most of the situations and here is how I used this time to my advantage..
1. I got a lot of uninterrupted time with Sonny boy - casually talking, bonding with him and for a change topics that are different from his studies, grades and school.
2. When Sonny boy was sleeping, I had a lot of time to think about my life, where I have reached in life, my priorities and what next (so on and so forth - not that I have taken major decisions in life, but I had time to stop and think)
3. Dennu, (sonny boy) is a sensitive teenager and unless prodded does not spill any beans. He is also trying hard to reach up to the expectations of his parents of being independant young man - okay, why am I beating around the bush? Let me come to the point. He simply does not allow me to feed him food. sounds funny yeah.. to me too.. it sounds funny. But there are these maternal instincts that pop out without any warning and I do these stupid things like trying to give him food saying, Dennu taste this and out comes his hand and takes it from me, whereas I am actually using that as a pretext to feed him. He somehow does not like it and I think he takes over his father in that. I remember my mom feeding me even after my marriage - I still would allow Mom to do that. To cut the long story short, Sonny boy after the surgery has a crepe bandage on the right hand and the drips are on the left hand, and has to be fed. Can you imagine my Joy? Sheer Bliss. I have fed him 6 meals till now.. and thats after so many years. The joy is manifold when he calls me and says, Ma, I am hungry can you give me my lunch / dinner whatever.. The doctors have advised to stop the drips tomorrow, so he can use his left hand to eat, till then I will satisfy my maternal instincts.
4. Been wanting to do quilling for a long time.. almost close to a year. Never found the time, though I had picked up the quilling tool kit some time back. This was the perfect time for quilling and I have an expert giving me his opinions on colour combos and the design etc., I have managed to complete the design of a card, the photograph of which I will post later. ( a topic for another blogpost)
5. Also realised and I think, this is a great take away for me - How ever independant and healthy we all are, it just takes a moment's time for things to change. Our lives are so fragile and our independance is actually hanging on a very thin thread of destiny and its absolutely not in our control no matter how talented or capable we are.. Not that I didnt know, but it is important to value people and relationships and enjoy and live the moment that we have got.
Now for something quite interesting during the last three days, remember the bonding and all the conversations that Sonny boy and I are having? He was being wheeled into the Operation Theatre and he asks me, Mamma, can you tell the doc, to fix the Titanium plate in such way that when I want, the Titanium plate can come out just like how Wolverine can bring out his Adamantium claws - Mamma wide mouthed and almost faints. This is after all his rehearsals on Monday about how he is going to tell all his friends about the extra bit of metal in his fist as soon as he is able to go to school.
He was actually a little disappointed with the size of the metal piece as seen in the post op X-rays :-)
That reminds me I need to tell my Sonny boy " Be careful what you wish for"